Facebook has gotten out of hand if you ask me. I have been on it since the year it was invented (2004) and it just irritates the heck out of me these days. So today I finally decided to cut the cord, at least for the time being. This actually isn’t the first time. I’ve deactivated several times in the past. So I have experience with the Facebook Fast. I have also done a Facebook Cleanse where I removed all of my Facebook friends or likes and started over.
Before I deactivated my profile this time, I decided to do a bit of research. As you know from learning about the scientific method in school, the first phase of the process is to identify your questions.
My questions were this:
- Do I really need to keep my Facebook page for my blog?
- If I keep my Facebook page, how do I ensure it remains while not having to use my personal profile?
- Can I use Facebook without using the personal side of it?
- Will people hate me?
Well, as you have figured out those aren’t really great research questions. So instead of actually doing a solid research study I just started googling. I found some interesting information (source: Pew):
- 61% of Facebook Users take time off.
- 20% of people who use the internet used to use Facebook but no longer do.
- 8% of people who use the internet and are not currently on Facebook are considering it.
So it sure looks like I am not the only person who has gotten fed up with the website. It also turns out that people come and go from Facebook for a variety of reasons. The top 5 reasons to deactivate your Facebook profile are:
1. You don’t have time for Facebook
Everyone is busy, but Facebook can really suck up a lot of your time. If you have a family, a full-time job, and a lot of responsibilities Facebook should be the last thing on your list. There are only 24 hours in a day and if you don’t have a tie slot to place Facebook into, then it’s best you not participate. People will often expect you to respond to messages or assume you will be viewing their profiles and if you don’t have time to keep up with it, then it’s best if you aren’t on there at all.
2. You don’t like Facebook
This is absolutely part of my reason. I literally am sick of it. I don’t like how they are going about their business at the moment (e.g. integrating advertising into your feed, reducing how many things they share on my business page).
3. You realize Facebook is a waste of time
So maybe some of you actually have the time to use Facebook. You realized that using Facebook is a waste of time so you downloaded Self Control or another similar app to keep yourself from using it. It didn’t work because when you would log back onto Facebook you had tons of notifications that helped you to waste more time than you would have had you used the time to keep up with them.
I have now used it for almost an entire decade and it makes me sick to think of the time I have lost. I wish I had used that time to exercise or make a healthy meal. Maybe I would have never been diagnosed with Thyroid Cancer. That might be extreme, but seriously think of what you are losing by using Facebook as well as what you think you may be gaining.
4. You dislike the drama/conflict/negativity
I, personally, have experienced that people tend to be more negative on Facebook than any other social network. I think Facebook invites it by asking people what is on their mind in the status box. I also think they invite it by having a like box and not an unlike box. If they had an unlike box but not a like box, then people would type reasons why they like things. But having a like box and a comment box, it invites people to comment when they disagree with something because they don’t have another option.
On the other side of the coin, people tend to share things that are showing only the positive side of their life when they share images. They will share photos of their baby. They will show photos of their wedding. And then Facebook literally leads to depression and other bad stuff.
5. You are concerned about your privacy
It is no longer a secret that much of your private information is available and seen by people other than who is allowed in your privacy settings. If you would prefer that your private life actually be private, then Facebook is not a good place for you. Just because their privacy settings claim something doesn’t mean they won’t change their policy overnight either. You are at the mercy of the corporation.
There are several other reasons people come and go from Facebook.
My own Journey
So those are some of the top reasons people deactivate their profiles. I am also deactivating mine for religious reasons. During this time of year, I really would like to focus on the birth of Jesus Christ. I realize there are tons of things being shared on Facebook about this, but there are also tons of things that do not relate to this. I would prefer to monitor what comes in an out of my brain or across my site for awhile. It is very difficult to do this with Facebook. So I am taking time off.
I am going to fast from Facebook for awhile, not sure how long, but I need to focus my energy on other things. Just as a professional organizer would help you declutter your home, deactivating Facebook declutters your mind from all the junk you would be reading in your feed. So as we close out this year and enter into a new one, I am getting rid of the old and will make room for new!
What do you think? Have you ever been one of those 61% that took a break from Facebook? If you took a break, how did you do it? Did you deactivate or just have self control to not use the site? Did you have any consequences when you returned to the site? Or did you leave Facebook for good?
I’ve already received five (5) messages from people asking me about my rapture from Facebook and a friend request to my new temporary personal profile (that I have not advertised and am only using so I can access my blog Facebook page and group).
To clarify for those of you who already miss me, I have deactivated my profile not deleted it. Here is how Facebook defines that difference:
Permanently deleting your account means you will not ever be able to reactivate or retrieve any of the content or information you’ve added…
When you deactivate your account, your Timeline and all information associated with it disappears from Facebook immediately. People on Facebook will not be able to search for you or view any of your information.
If you’d like to come back to Facebook anytime after you’ve deactivated your account, you can reactivate your account by logging in with your email and password.
Facebook doesn’t want you to do either, but they will allow to to do both. They really would prefer you deactivate to delete. Although the personal profile I have had since Facebook’s inception is still intact, I have created other accounts when I have been blocked from using Facebook features or had my account banned. Once Facebook thought I was a ‘bot because I type so fast so it froze my account for 6 months. So I almost always have backup account that has access to my business pages and groups that I manage myself.
Anyhow, this time around I did not delete my account, I deactivated. So whenever I decide to return, everything on my account will. Facebook keeps it on their servers. So have no fear. My entire life has been documented for the past decade on that dang website and it will be back again for your view at some point.
Although I am in the middle of my Facebook Experiment, I have deactivated my profile. Today alone I had multiple misunderstandings via Facebook and some odd communications. I do not view Facebook as a valid means of communication. I don’t. I honestly feel the same way about text messages. If you want to talk to me, talk to me in person if at all possible. I realize this is strange for a blogger to say, but I am serious. Talking to people online, via a computer, or nonverbally over text messaging is not REAL communication. It is phony. People do develop emotional connections online. People even get a buzz from using things like Facebook. But I am literally sick of it. SICK OF IT. So I’m taking a break. In the meantime, I am going to write down all of the websites that I use Facebook for logging into and am going to change my logins the next time I login to my account. I want to cut the cord on Facebook. Then I think I may hire someone on Odesk.com to manage my personal Facebook account. I don’t need to actually login to it myself to manage it all. I can hire them to delete negative comments from my Facebook “friends” and I’ll be good to go. Everyone will get the buzz they are looking for from my profile, I will be able to promote my blog posts, and I can go on with my life.
I received an email asking if I was O.K.
What the Bible says:
Look carefully then how you walk! Live purposefully and worthily and accurately, not as the unwise and witless, but as wise (sensible, intelligent people), Making the very most of the time [buying up each opportunity], because the days are evil. Therefore do not be vague and thoughtless and foolish, but understanding and firmly grasping what the will of the Lord is.
When I am ready to commit Facebook suicide
I am adding this link here for reference:
- Reasons to deactivate your Facebook account (stuff.co.nz)
- 30 Days Without Facebook: Why I Only Lasted 15 Days (whatjessieread.wordpress.com)
- How to Erase Yourself From the Internet (gizmodo.com)
- My Facebook Detox (nulliparousmom.wordpress.com)
- Why I just deactivated my Facebook account – #FBrape (sonsiekat.wordpress.com)